If you see your partner’s weight moving in a physically dangerous direction, you naturally want to help. It’s hard to know how best to help because weight is a very sensitive topic for most people. So where do you start? And how can you help if your partner wants to lose weight?
Some people believe Although love, treating someone harshly to help them in the long run. So say it as she says: “You were more attractive when you were thinner” or “You could lose a few pounds.” While this may work for some as a file wake cryThis is a very bad way to help someone lose weight. Shame rarely results from permanent change. Plus, your partner often knows they’ve arrived.
Support your partner in losing weight
Research shows that only positive influence attempts (such as emotional support and adoption of healthy behavior) have a desirable effect on healthy behavior. In contrast, making negative comments and persisting have a negative effect on changing behavior. It can lead to low self-esteem and increased stress in the other person.
‘I am worried’
Keep the discussion centered on health. Phrases that focus on your body or eating habits can make your partner feel attacked. Don’t say things like, “You keep gaining weight” or “I notice you eat a lot of snacks in the evening.” Speak with love and respect. An expression like “I’m worried about your health” is a more respectful way to express your concern.
lead by example
Sitting on the couch with a bag of chips while your partner is working out or eating a salad is also a bad idea. It’s been proven that relationship partners exchange positive and negative healthy habits over time. This is reflected in many health-related factors, including smoking, alcohol consumption, exercise and food choices. Men and women are more likely to experience a positive change in healthy behavior if their partner does as well.
The dietitian explains: This is why losing weight is more difficult if you are overweight
together in good health
So try to work together on a healthy lifestyle. Evaluate yourself, see if your habits have deteriorated as well and take up the topic of the “us” problem: “We need to exercise more” or “We need to eat better.” Cook new healthy recipes, take a walk together instead of watching TV and put healthy snacks on the table in the evening. Together, focus on the positive changes, not the things your partner shouldn’t. Offer to share an appetizer or dessert when dining out. This subtly sends a message to your partner that you are changing your eating habits for the better – together.
to leave of
If your partner doesn’t want to discuss their weight with you, leave the issue. Discussing one’s weight is a very personal and sensitive matter. And remember, just because your partner doesn’t want to talk about weight loss doesn’t mean they don’t think about it or talk about it with someone else.
Desiree van der Croek (25 years old) has an online dietitian practice after earning her BA in Nutrition and Dietetics. jouwfoodplan.nl Founded, where you can go for e-consulting and tailor-made nutrition plans. She also enjoys writing articles on nutrition and health. follow her Instagram from Facebook social networking site For more information, tips and tricks.
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